Today there’s tons of stuff on when and how to talk to your kids about the birds and the bees. And if parents keep communication open with their kids from an early age, this isn’t the hardest thing in the world to talk about…
What IS hard these days…is navigating all the fluid morals and approaches to sexuality in general. Talking about homosexuality withOUT putting homosexuals down, for example, is really hard to do sometimes. In a Christian home, sexual sins are often given extra emphasis as wrong, and it’s hard to teach/model “hate the sin and love the sinner…”
11 concepts to include when teaching sex-ed to your kids today
Important concepts include:
- Dating – Casual dating encourages serial monogamy, but if you can’t get your kids to “buy in” to that, than it’s just legalism.
- Protecting your heart – Related to dating, this is a really important concept for both girls AND boys!
- Modesty – I don’t mean being overly-modest, either; I’m not a fan of floor-length denim skirts for women… This also would seque into how boys are more visual, and WHY it’s important for girls to be modest…
- Love languages – This should be taught from an early age and would benefit everyone both in the home and beyond as our children seek, find and court the love of their lives! 🙂
- Peer pressure – Knowing and being rooted in who they are in Christ can strengthen young people in staying true to the values and morals learned from their parents, and then helps them stay strong when/as they develop their own morals…
- Respect – For themselves, for each other, boys for girls and vice versa… So, so very important!
- Sexualization of our culture – This should be a running commentary on ads, music, books, movies and how they affect the way we look at and treat the opposite sex
- Pornography – Sadly, this one is also related to the sexualization of our culture. Pornography is so prevalent today, and as the “rules” become looser and looser, the lines become more blurred. I think that teaching, and practicing, the concepts of modesty and respect go far towards teaching our children what is appropriate and inappropriate to watch.
- Responsibilities of parenting – As kids become teens, starting to understand all the stuff parents need to know and do and be responsible for…well, that’s a pretty important part of sex-education, too, no?!
- What to do if/when you “mess up”… – Forgiveness, a challenge for many of us, will help our kids navigate the waters of handling both life and sexual intimacy within marriage.
- Sex isn’t “evil” – In fact, sex was God’s idea. And, sex was meant for our pleasure. Don’t believe me? Take a few minutes to read Song of Solomon. There’s some racy stuff in there, but it’s all part of God’s plan for a healthy marriage. It’s important that our children understand that sex within the boundaries that God sets is a beautiful gift.
What’s most important is to model the concepts we want to teach…
Certainly in this day and age, our society has become more and more complicated, and our children are being exposed to more and more “junk.” As parents, we need to be one step ahead of the game, and ready to meet the challenge head-on.
Our kids need us to be there for them…
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