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Teaching “Sex-ed” – Updated for Parents

Today there’s tons of stuff on when and how to talk to your kids about the birds and the bees. And  if parents keep communication open with their kids from an early age, this isn’t the hardest thing in the world to talk about…

Teaching "Sex-ed" - Updated for Parents
​What IS hard these days…is navigating all the fluid morals and approaches to sexuality in general.  Talking about homosexuality withOUT putting homosexuals down, for example, is really hard to do sometimes. In a Christian home, sexual sins are often given extra emphasis as wrong, and it’s hard to teach/model “hate the sin and love the sinner…”

​11 concepts to include when teaching sex-ed to your kids today

Important concepts include:

      1. Dating – Casual dating encourages serial monogamy, but if you can’t get your kids to “buy in” to that, than it’s just legalism.
      2. Protecting your heart – Related to dating, this is a really important concept for both girls AND boys!
      3. Modesty – I don’t mean being overly-modest, either;  I’m not a fan of floor-length denim skirts for women…  This also would seque into how boys are more visual, and WHY it’s important for girls to be modest…
      4. Love languages – This should be taught from an early age and would benefit everyone both in the home and beyond as our children seek, find and court the love of their lives! 🙂
      5. Peer pressure – Knowing and being rooted in who they are in Christ can strengthen young people in staying true to the values and morals learned from their parents, and then helps them stay strong when/as they develop their own morals…
      6. Respect – For themselves, for each other, boys for girls and vice versa…  So, so very important!
      7. Sexualization of our culture – This should be a running commentary on ads, music, books, movies and how they affect the way we look at and treat the opposite sex
      8. Pornography – Sadly, this one is also related to the sexualization of our culture.  Pornography is so prevalent today, and as the “rules” become looser and looser, the lines become more blurred.  I think that teaching, and practicing, the concepts of modesty and respect go far towards teaching our children what is appropriate and inappropriate to watch.
      9. Responsibilities of parenting – As kids become teens, starting to understand all the stuff parents need to know and do and be responsible for…well, that’s a pretty important part of sex-education, too, no?!
      10. What to do if/when you “mess up”… – Forgiveness, a challenge for many of us, will help our kids navigate the waters of handling both life and sexual intimacy within marriage.
      11.  Sex isn’t “evil” – In fact, sex was God’s idea. And, sex was meant for our pleasure. Don’t believe me? Take a few minutes to read Song of Solomon. There’s some racy stuff in there, but it’s all part of God’s plan for a healthy marriage. It’s important that our children understand that sex within the boundaries that God sets is a beautiful gift.

What’s most important is to model the concepts we want to teach…

It may have been true “back in the day” that teaching about sex was simply teaching the mechanics…but maybe not.  Maybe, by keeping it to that level, we allowed our society to be able to separate the act from ever-important concepts such as respect, honesty, honor, commitment, self-control, self-respect and forgiveness.

Certainly in this day and age, our society has become more and more complicated, and our children are being exposed to more and more “junk.”  As parents, we need to be one step ahead of the game, and ready to meet the challenge head-on.

Our kids need us to be there for them…

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Pat is a Yankee city-girl who has been adopted by the sleepy, sunny south. Married for 30 years and the mother of 5, she woke up one day recently to discover she reached the stage of life where she is the “older woman” described in Titus 2:3-5. A coffee lover, the purchase of a coffee shop a few years ago was her personal foray into the small, family-owned business arena.Today, PatAndCandy.com is her outlet for packaging up and sharing the nuggets of wisdom God and life experiences have taught her.
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3 Responses to Teaching “Sex-ed” – Updated for Parents

  1. Terri Presser January 17, 2015 at 2:30 am #

    Thanks for sharing this at Good Morning Mondays. Great post and great points, there is a lot there that we do already and the others are good too. Blessings

  2. Aimee January 14, 2015 at 9:28 pm #

    I really appreciate your points here. I like how you stated that if you can’t get your kids to ‘buy into’ a no casual dating philosophy, then it is just legalism. But most of all, I truly appreciate how you make the point of the importance that our kids need to be grounded in Christ. I think that’s is the most important point!

    • Pat January 14, 2015 at 11:11 pm #

      Thanks, Aimee! Can’t get much more fundamental than who we are in Christ, right?!

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