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Sometimes the answer needs to be “No”…

When Zay, our little “late bloomer” of all things physical, finally learned to crawl he seemed determined to enjoy his new-found mobility to the fullest. One day as he was exploring some previously uncharted territory he took off  – crawling across the room as fast as his chubby little limbs would propel him. It was obvious he had a very specific target.

And it didn’t take me long to realize that target was the long, black cord hanging over the edge of an ironing board.

Up to this point, his limited life experience had taught him that all the world was designed for his entertainment…

When he’d pull the string on one of his toys he’d be greeted with funny noises.

There were always cute little things hanging from his car seat or bouncy seat and managing to grab one of those was always lots of fun.

Of course, he would assume that reaching the long, black cord in this instance would be no different.

But I could see what he could not.

I knew that the cord that enticed him was attached to a heavy, metal iron. Pulling this cord would bring, at the very least, unpleasant results. Some lessons are best learned the hard way. This was not one of those lessons. I quickly stepped in, rerouting him to safety before he ever even knew there was a risk. He was not at all happy with me and he wasted no time letting me and everyone within earshot know exactly how he felt.

I was okay with that. His safety was more important to me than his approval.

Some consequences teach important life lessons. But how do we react when the answer needs to be "No?" The lesson isn't just for kids... Maybe the “No” we’re hearing has a purpose beyond what we're able to fathom.

That scenario isn’t exclusive to our family. Almost any time you have a gathering of moms you can be sure someone will have a story of how they rescued a little one from imminent danger “just in time”….

A busy tot’s hand grabbed just before he heads across a busy street to get to the playground…

A curious little one scooped up just before she reaches the hot fire place…

And, because our sweet little kiddos don’t yet have the ability to comprehend the danger, they only feel the loss of what they hoped to achieve. Therefore, most of those stories usually include the melt-down the child had as a result of not being able to carry out their plans. And that’s okay. As moms, we love ‘em enough to tell ‘em “No.”

This same principle can be applied to our grown-up pursuits.

If we’re in a relationship with our heavenly Father, don’t you think He’s watching out for us too? Can’t we trust that He loves us infinitely more than we could ever conceive? Maybe the “No” we’re hearing has a purpose beyond what we’re able to fathom.

God certainly has a better vantage point than we do. He’s well able to look beyond what we can see and we can trust that a “No” from Him is in our best interest.


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Candy is a southern girl who enjoys the simple things in life. Dirt road drivin’, Sunday afternoon nappin’, back yard swingin’, and sunset watchin’ are a few of the things that make her smile. She’s been married to her best friend and the love of her life for almost 25 years and is navigating motherhood with her 4 children, aged 23, 19, 14, & 11. Homeschooling for over 18 years now, she is also a bit of a word-nerd (ok, maybe more than a “bit” – she actually considers making lists of homophones to be entertaining), a lover of books and chocolate, a survivor of cancer, an author, and a hula hoop maker.

10 Responses to Sometimes the answer needs to be “No”…

  1. Terri Presser January 8, 2015 at 4:08 am #

    Thanks for sharing this at Good Morning Mondays. Sometimes it is so hard to put our trust in God and let Him look after us. Thanks for the reminder. Blessings

  2. Sarah Donegan September 14, 2014 at 11:56 am #

    I still get bratty sometimes when God tells me no, even though I know He has something better. Wish I could grow out of that! 🙂

  3. normaleverydaylife September 13, 2014 at 11:08 am #

    Great point! It’s hard to accept that we don’t always know everything and trust that God knows best! #saturdaysoiree

  4. Elizabeth September 13, 2014 at 7:04 am #

    Excellent analogy! Just the reminder I needed, as well! Thank you!

  5. Kathryn Shirey August 29, 2014 at 7:27 am #

    “No” is one of the hardest words to hear, but how I wish I’d heard God’s “no” more often 🙂 It’s a great lesson to learn to begin to tune into God’s voice and listen for the “no” – and then actually follow it!

  6. Gentle Joy August 28, 2014 at 10:52 am #

    None of us likes to hear the word “no”… and it is even hard to say it at times, but it is important that we learn to accept it…. an ongoing lesson. thank you for posting this. 🙂

  7. S.L. Payne August 1, 2014 at 10:59 pm #

    So true! We’ve had similar moments like the time my then two year old at a parent teacher conference decided to jump out a window to get to the playground since he couldn’t reach the door handle. I caught him by his foot as he dove. This was about a minute after the teacher remarked that she felt that out of all my 3 boys, he is the one we need to watch. Yup. by the ankle. I jumped up mid-sentence to grab him and left the poor teacher just in shock at how right she had been. Hearing no is so so so important! We need God’s wisdom to save us from ourselves when we can’t see the bigger picture especially since His plans are so much bigger than we can understand!
    -S.L. Payne, uncommongrace.net

    • Candy August 2, 2014 at 8:22 am #

      Yikes!Thank God for your quick reflexes! And what a perfect analogy…Dontcha just love how, if we’re willing to look, we can see God’s truths in so many of our everyday situations?

  8. Laura Lane of Harvest Lane Cottage July 30, 2014 at 10:53 am #

    Thanks for sharing this comparison.

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