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30 Days of Praying for Your Husband – Day 19/20

Good afternoon! Glad you’re joining us again as we pray intentionally and strategically for our husbands 🙂

A few days ago I pointed out that we will be doing the remainder of our series in a slightly different format.  I’ll be highlighting two areas each day, in order to finish up by Father’s Day.  If you would like to go through the entire set of posts at another time, please sign up here and we will be sending them out again, via email, around Thanksgiving.  There will be bonus material added to the package, so go ahead and sign up even if you’re just curious!

But back to the subject-at-hand: there is so much good stuff to share today, it was hard to just pick out a few points. While we are no doubt affected by the actions and events in our personal history, it’s important to remember we’re NOT defined by them! God makes all things new and encourages us to renew our minds daily. Today’s topics are vital areas in which to pray for your husbands – so let’s get to it!

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30 Days of Praying for Your Husband Day 19 - His Past

Day 19 deals with His Past.  “The past should not be a place where we live, but something from which we learn.”  We all have memories and regrets of actions and words from long ago, but stewing over and brewing about them will not change a thing, and will prevent us from living in the freedom that Christ offers us daily.

Read Chapter 19 – “His Past” from The Power of a Praying Wife

Questions for thought/journaling:

  1. Is there anything from your husband’s past that repeatedly torments him?  Is your husband’s past something from which he learns, a part of his life that he tries to ignore, or a place where he lives?
  2. Read Philipians 3:13-14.  Do you feel your husband is able to reach forward to all God has for him?  How do you think your prayers might help him to do that?
  3. Was there anything that happened in your husband’s childhood that is affecting his life today? Do you have any concerns about something that could be passed down to your children (alcoholism, divorce, anger, fear, poor self-image, etc.)?
  4. Read 2 Corinthians 5:17.  Does your husband truly understand that he is a new creature in the Lord?  Do you?  Write out this Scripture as a prayer, inserting your husband’s name in it.  Then write it out with your name in it!
  5. Read Isaiah 43:18-19.  What are we to do about the past?  What does God promise if we do that?  Do you believe it?
  6. Read Ephesians 4:22-24.  White this Scripture as a prayer, inserting your husband’s name; then put your own name in it.  Declare it as truth!


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Holding on to the worst from our past also creates a legacy for our own children.  We pass on more than genes, ya’ know!  My prayer for you is that your heritage is one of encouragement, joy and experiencing the freedom of the Lord.  He died to break those chains of yours – lets not let His suffering be in vain!

Live in freedom from the past, looking with joy to the future…and pray for your husband to do the same!

If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17

For those of you who have ever been around kids, you know how they need ~ and can cause us to need ~ an occasional “attitude adjustment”!  Who actually enjoys being around someone who can find the one shadow on a cloudless day?  And on the other hand, think about how it feels to be around that  person (people?) in your life who can find the silver lining no-matter-what?! 

30 Days of Praying for Your Husband - Day 20 His Attitude


Day 20 deals with Attitude.  The Bible has much to say about our attitudes!!  One of my favorites is Ephesians 4:22-24 – “…put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its decietful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your mind; and…put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”  How’s THAT for an “attitude adjustment”?

Read Chapter 20 – “His Attitude” from The Power of a Praying Wife

(Just as a reminder, you don’t need to have/read this classic by Stormie Omartian, but it certainly has some wonderful material in it!  Your marriage is certainly worth the investment.)

Questions for thought/journaling:

  1. Does your husband frequently have a bad attitude, or is he usually even-tempered and cheerful?  Do events of the day affect him, or is he able to rise above them and cast his cares on the Lord.
  2. Do YOU react to negativity to your husband?  How so?  Do you immediately go to the Lord in prayer about it?  How could you respond more positively?
  3. Has your husband’s attitude affected your marriage in a negative or positive way?  How could you pray about that?
  4. Read and underline 1 Corinthians 13:2.  Does your husband have a full knowledge of the love of God?  Do you beel he has truly experienced God’s love in his life?  Have you?
  5. Read Psalm 100:3-4.  Does your husband know how to do what is described here?  Write this as a prayer, inserting your husband’s name; do it again, inserting your own name!
  6. Real Proverbs 15:13.  In light of this verse, how could you continue to pray for your husband’s attitude?


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Until tomorrow..

Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise.  Be thankful to Him, and bless his name.  Psalm 100:4


In this 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband series, we will be covering the following areas: His wife,Work,Finances,Sexuality,Affections, Temptations and Trials, His Mind, Fears, Purpose, Choices, Health, Protection, Integrity, Reputation, Priorities, Relationships, Fatherhood, His Past, Attitude, Marriage, Emotions, Walk, Talk, Repentance, Deliverance, Obedience, Self-Image, Faith, Future


Interested in the going through the complete series? Find the whole study here.

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4 Responses to 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband – Day 19/20

  1. Beth July 15, 2015 at 4:17 pm #

    Prayer is so instrumental to healing our hearts and marriages, Pat. I’m so glad you’re leading out in this. I have been utilizing prayer in two marriage groups for quite a while and I see how it is changing our hearts–for those of us who participate and are devoted to the practice. It has also opened my eyes to so many different ways to pray for my husband and your post offers a nuance that must not be ignored–my husband’s past. Thanks so much, my friend!

    • Pat July 17, 2015 at 5:14 pm #

      You tagged it when you said “how it is changing our hearts – for those of us who participate…”
      Once again I’m reminded that at the end of the day we cannot change anyone besides ourselves. Heck, we can’t even change ourselves without the strength and power that comes from the Holy Spirit through prayer.

      I love how God shows us different nuances; kind of like showing us different facets of a diamond!

      So glad you’ve found, and contribute to, our blog, dear friend!!

  2. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser June 15, 2015 at 1:07 pm #

    Sorry I missed commenting on the last couple of posts. I read them, but have been very ill…and one of our geriatric Pit Bulls, a lovely gentle girl named Tammy, is dying.

    Past and attitude…boy, do these cause headaches for my wife?

    I was a paramilitary contractor in places that did not really pay heed to the Geneva Convention, and PTSD evaluated as ‘very severe’ is a part of my life. I’m not comfortable in public, and my quick and forcefully hostile reactions to any sort of surprise make an evening out just another source of concern and anxiety for my wife.

    Not that it’s relevant now; I’m too ill to leave the mesa.Can’t ride in a car without extreme pain. Ah, well, it’s a big mesa.

    Which brings me to attitude. being terminally ill, and determined to survive, I’ve drawn upon my “fear the dark, for I am in it” persona, and approach life with a certain degree of ruthlessness, especially toward myself and my own weaknesses. I don’t accept my body’s pain-induced limitations, and have shown that by pushing to the point of collapse.

    It’s not fair to Barbara, not by any means; but it’s the only way I know how to get through this with any hope for light at the end of what has turned into an exceedingly dark tunnel.

    And the danger is that I will let that cold ferocity spread, and become ruthless with her,pushing her to to things that are beyond her ability, and beyond her desire. I have no problem with experiencing pain on the principle of strengthening my resolve, of knowing that I can stand THIS, so I can go further…but I am, in the words of a friendd, “an inspired loony”.

    So, yeah, she has to pray for my attitude, that I can learn to be a lot better than I am.

    • Pat July 17, 2015 at 5:26 pm #

      Don’t know how I missed your comment for over a month! 🙁
      Wow…lots going on there. Andrew, no matter how exceedingly dark or long the tunnel gets, the only thing that offers hope is Jesus. I know you know that; I pray that your wife knows that, too, and I also pray that your story may somehow touch the lives of others who may need to know that as well.

      Thank you so much for generously sharing a piece of your pain and your journey with us all…

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