A few of us have deep relationships that span decades— all the way back to the days of braces and sleepovers. Some of us have friends scattered across the country and we continue to make the effort to stay connected and involved in each other’s lives.
Maybe you and your neighbor walk together in the morning—your friendship developed because of proximity. More than a few of us have built relationships because of our kids. Thrown together at ballgames and play practices, we get to know each other because we end up spending a lot of time at the same events.
In recent years behavioral scientists have become interested in the ways friendship impacts a person’s life. The results of many complex and wide -ranging studies point to what you’ve known all along. Friends matter. Friends make life better. We need each other.
But we need more than people who we enjoy being around. We need more than people who share common backgrounds and mutual interests.
Each of us needs a truth-speaking friend.
Each of us needs someone who will tell us when we are wrong.
Each of us needs someone who cares enough to challenge our thinking and our behavior.
This kind of relationship must be built on a solid foundation of mutual respect and integrity. You should not give many people this kind of access, but you should give someone permission to tackle issues that make you uncomfortable.
Choose this friend wisely. You must be confident that this person loves you and has your best interest in mind. You must be know that this friend has already spent time on her knees talking to God about the message she brings to you. You want your truth-speaking friend to be filled with grace and led by the Spirit of God.
If you don’t have this kind of friend in your life you are missing opportunities to learn and grow. If you don’t have this kind of friend in your life it may be because you haven’t made yourself vulnerable. Most people, even loving friends, won’t go deeper until you let them know you are receptive to the truth.
Begin your search with prayer. Ask God to develop you into the kind of person who welcomes loving correction and insight. Ask God to give you the friend he can use in your life. Proceed cautiously and give the relationship time to grow. Perhaps you already have that truth-speaking friend walking beside you…perhaps it’s time to give them permission to speak.
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