This is a story of developing perfection. Follow closely and you’ll see how a perfect mother is born…
Once upon a time, there was a mom who had five children. Their ages spanned over fifteen years, and for more years than she could count, she found herself struggling to be everything to each of them.
In the early years, there was the inevitable “new mom” adjustment: lack of sleep, loneliness without having family nearby, desperately trying to establish some sort of order and schedule with which to frame her days. Motherhood seemed to suit her, however, and just as things settled down, the second child came. It became quickly obvious that her carefully crafted routines no longer worked, and the stress this created seemed to expose character traits of which she was deeply ashamed.
Bible study, prayer, good friends and time got her through, but just as those dear children were smack dab in the middle of the teen years, three more children entered the picture.
She adored them all, of course, but the effort spent parenting teens, toddlers, and a tiny one once again created a perfect storm of sorts: her “Supermom” facade cracked, revealing her imperfect humanity.
The struggle of motherhood
Many nights she would lie in bed, rehashing in her head conversations that she felt went awry, or situations that she believed she handled poorly. She worried that her periodic bursts of anger, usually occurring when she was just plain exhausted or feeling totally overwhelmed, were going to permanently scar her kids. And she prayed that the inconsistency she often displayed, despite being unintentional, would not mess them up for life.
As the years went by, travel and living overseas were added to the mixture, and homeschooling developed into a lifestyle of learning for the crew. The older ones up and married, and while this mom struggled with lingering feelings of inadequacy and guilt, one day, in prayer, she realized something…
Enter the Perfect Mother
While watching the slowly rising sun during morning quiet time one day, she came upon a series of Bible passages:
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
2 Corinthians 12:9
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!
And slowly the fog lifted from her thinking.
All those years of worry and guilt and fear. All those feelings of inadequacy and insufficiency. God had this…the whole time God had this!
- The insufficiency and weakness? Covered by God’s grace!
- The “work” of motherhood, the handiwork of raising children? Prepared for her well in advance of creation!
- During the times of struggle and worry and fear? She was not forgotten!
- And as much as she loved her children…the Lord loved her – and them – even more!
So who IS the Perfect Mother?
By now you may have figured out who this story is about. I share this brief summary of my journey because of the connection to you. Because you see, it would be very easy and accurate to replace your name in the story above. I mean, you might have a different number of children, or your struggles may have been slightly different, but you, dear friend, ARE a perfect mother!
You were created by God, long before the beginning of time, to be the mother to your children. Your inadequacies and insufficiencies are there as a tool for God to make you more and more like Himself as the days unfold. Your children’s lives and futures are in the hands of a loving Creator, and there is no mistake or misstep that you can ever make that will take them from that embrace.
So hold on to this:
While you may not have achieved perfection…you are a perfect mother!
- Stop comparing yourself to others around you, and adapting to the world’s view of perfection.
- Strive each day to be more and more like Jesus, and He will smooth out the rough spots.
- Lift up your efforts in life, in homeschooling, in service to your family and those around you, to the Lord, and He will magnify and bless them a thousand-fold.
- Seek forgiveness quickly from your missteps and mistakes, and you will be daily working out your perfection.
- Remember, at the end of the day, perfection is not a destination, but a journey.
Now if you’re a mother who is weary from trying to feel perfect, and you need a break, I have something for you.
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