Candy and I are very intentional in “keepin’ it real” on this site. A while back Candy posted a sweet tribute to her husband on a special anniversary. Today I (Pat) thought I’d give you a peek into my own birth family by sharing a tribute to my dad for this upcoming Father’s Day. While nobody’s family is perfect (really, I DO hope you know that you’re not the only one who comes from a “dysfunctional” family, right?), as I’ve grown older I’ve chosen to both focus on and nurture the best parts of my growing up years and sweet memories of days past… Yesterday, Deidra gave us a peek into her own life and the important lessons she learned from both of her dads! Today, I’m “checking in”…
Even as I write this, my dad is in a rehab facility 1,000 miles away. It pains me that I can’t be there for him. He struggled to be both mother and father to me for a few years while I was young, and as I grew, he always encouraged me to keep going even when times were hard. He loves to laugh, and even though he can sure get, um, animated when talking about politics, he always looks on the bright side of a situation, and gives folks the benefit of the doubt. There were times when we both stood our stubborn ground on opposite sides of an issue, but I never doubted his fierce and loyal love for me.
Two of the characteristics that stand out about my dad are is sense of humor and his generosity. He always loved to listen to or tell a joke or funny story, even though the ones he told often were of the “corny” type ;-)! I think he used humor to get himself through some pretty rough patches in life, and he certainly encouraged my sister and I to “hang in there” and look at the brighter side of things often enough!
His generosity was and is remarkable. Not only was he open-handed with his daughters, nieces and nephews (and now grandkids), but the amazing amount of mail he still gets from charitable organizations attests to his history of sharing financial blessings over the years with others.
If I had it to do over again, I would:
- ask more questions of his growing-up years
- listen more
- sit quietly with him more
- ask him about his favorite books, heck, ask him about more of his favorite other things, too!
- play more board games together
- try to get to visit him more often with “the grands”…
But summer is here, and I’m praying for the opportunity to be together with him sometime soon. Dealing with his aging has helped me put things in a different perspective. The years pass too quickly, and at the end of the day the only thing that remains is the influence we have on others.
I treasure the influence he’s had on me…
Whatever the situation is with your dad, we hope that you can find some way to honor him this coming Father’s Day. And, if not, we hope your heart is open to honoring our heavenly Father, Who gave His all in order that we can have eternal life with Him!
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