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Coffee and Conversation Link Party #90 – The Truth About the #Momfail Culture

Good morning and welcome to Coffee and Conversation #90 – hosted by PatAndCandy.com!

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Dishes are piled up in the sink. You’re pulling clean underwear out of the dryer for your potty training toddler. Your kids need a bath (and a haircut, too). Dinner is looking like scrambled eggs (again). And you’re pretty sure you didn’t win any awards for “the Most Patient and Gentle Mommy” today.

In fact, on days like this you might be tempted to judge yourself even more harshly than that. Not only were you not at your best, but actually, you’re a terrible mom. A pathetic homemaker. The day was a disaster. You probably deserve an F minus in motherhood.

And on and on goes the litany in your head as you stew about the ways you didn’t match up or weren’t enough or were too whatever (angry, critical, impatient, disorganized, fill in the blank).

You snap a shot of your depressing laundry pile after the kids go to bed and share it on Instagram with a self-deprecating comment and the hashtag #momfail. It’s only meant as a joke, of course, but deep down it feels a little truer than you wish it did.

If this sounds even remotely familiar, you need to know two things:

  1. You are not. Most of us feel this way far more than we ever admit.
  2. All the ways you failed?? How awful you did today or last week? It’s just not true. You’re doing better than you think.

I’ve had these sorts of days myself, and it’s precisely because I get it that I’m so excited to point you in the direction of this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.

Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers, but they’re also moms in the trenches. They’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering experience between them.

They also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart and tear-stained face, because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.

And so they’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”.

It won’t solve all your problems, and much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile o’ laundry for you. But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.

Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.

To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.

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And on to this week’s features!

Beth’s posts, at MessyMarriage, most always hit home for me…and this week’s “Call it What it Is – Adultery” was no exception. But before you think this has nothing to do with you…well, you may want to think again and go ahead and read it!  Wedded Wednesday link up follows her post, too.

Call It What It Is – Adultery

Call it what it is - Adultery from MessyMarriage



Jaimie at SeekingGodwithJaimieWeible shares an important reminder to those who have been hurt by a church in the past… And another fun link party to discover! 🙂

The Battle Ground and Sitting Among Friends

The Battle Ground and Sitting Among Friends



Gah! Well, I know what’s on the sweet and slow Saturday morning breakfast menu at our house this weekend… I thank you, Marilyn, for this breakfast treat – even though I know my waistline won’t 😉  ~from MarilynsTreats

Tiramisu French Toast


Tiramisu French Toast

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9 Responses to Coffee and Conversation Link Party #90 – The Truth About the #Momfail Culture

  1. Natalie Patalie April 21, 2016 at 1:42 am #

    Thanks for hosting, have a great weekend! 🙂
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  2. Marilyn Lesniak April 20, 2016 at 3:39 pm #

    Thank you SO much for the feature. It is much appreciated. Thank you for the wonderful party! I appreciate you working so hard to share other bloggers content. I would love you to visit #WonderfulWednesday or #ThursdayFavoriteThings so I can return the favor! Have a great week. Don’t forget to comment your link #’s so I can be sure to visit. The more shares the bigger your audience! My features are chosen from these link numbers!
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  3. Carrie Anderson April 20, 2016 at 1:19 pm #

    I like to call it “the bad mommy award”. Most of the time I can just laugh it all off, but there are still those moments when you just feel like a complete failure. I’m a single mom, so we tend to feel the #momfail probably more than married moms. Thank you for providing encouragement to moms everywhere!

    • Pat April 20, 2016 at 2:38 pm #

      Oh Carrie, I have such a special place in my heart for single moms…I’ve known quite a few single homeschooling moms over the years and they are truly my heroes!! Whatever happens in this life, we know how the story ends, friend; and you are so NOT a failure! <3 I do hope you were/are encouraged by the mom series...and n-e-v-e-r listen to the #momfail junk that may sweep through your thoughts now and again...
      Have a fabulous day and week...thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts here!!

  4. Beth April 20, 2016 at 9:35 am #

    Sounds like this Mom Fail video series is a great one, Pat. I’ll have to check it out! And thanks so much for highlighting my post from last week too! I truly appreciate your kind words as well as your linkup here!
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    • Pat April 20, 2016 at 12:26 pm #

      It is, Beth! Thanks so much for sharing your heart and your words with us, friend!

  5. Debbie Williams April 20, 2016 at 9:33 am #

    So many truths here I’m clinging to in my weight loss today. Thanks for sharing.

    • Pat April 20, 2016 at 12:26 pm #

      Hope you find something to help you with your challenges, Debbie! Best of luck with it!! <3

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