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Coffee & Conversation Link Party #81 – On Blended Families…

Good morning and welcome to Coffee and Conversation #81 – hosted by PatAndCandy.com!

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While attending my dad’s funeral awhile back, I had an epiphany. As a grown, middle-aged woman, it struck me that I was raised in a blended family.

I’m not really sure if the phrase/concept was “big” when I was growing up – I don’t ever remember it being discussed or even mentioned on “The Brady Bunch” – but when my father remarried a few years after my mother’s death, that pretty much sealed our situation.

Now my stepmom hadn’t had any kiddos of her own, and she and my dad never had any children together, either, so that may also have contributed to the fact that it never really felt blended, but I can say with certainty that at the tender age of 10, a whole ‘nother set of people became family members.

This has kinda rocked my world.

But please don’t worry about me…I’m still fine. I’m handling all my day-to-day responsibilities as usual (for better or worse!), and I haven’t needed any meds other than for the occasional headache, but still…

Well, actually, there’s quite a bit “still”, so today Jed and Jen over at Coffeeshop Conversations are very kindly hosting a guest post I wrote on exactly what “but still…” entails.

Not to fear, tho: I don’t ever write from the “poor me” standpoint.  Since I started blogging, I’ve always asked the Lord to show me how I can take ANYthing that’s happened to me – good or bad – and use it to educate, encourage or inspire others.  So if you, or anyone you know, comes from a blended family, I’d love to read you,r or their, thoughts on my article: How to Preserve the Gift of Being a Blended Family. (Just click on the link and the article will open up in another tab…)

But first, on to this week’s features!

When I Feel Inadequate

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough?  Well, if not, then you can skip this post.  But for me…well, Mel, at Essential Thing Devotions, delivered a much-needed dose of encouragement to me in this one! Make sure you head on over to her Facebook page and give her a holla, and a thanks, if she spoke to you, too <3!

When I feel inadequate, God transforms the not good enough!



How to Keep Your Home Livable Without Cleaning All the Time

My neighbor used to call it “puttering”, Giftie Etcetera calls it “pittering” – “tomato, tomahtoe” – it works for me!

How to Keep Your Home Clean without cleaning all the time


40 Ways to Make Memories with Your Family

Sarah Ann, from Faith Along the Way, did this guest post that Crystal shared with us from TidBits of Experience. Now that’s teamwork!

Guest post from Tidbits of Expererience


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14 Responses to Coffee & Conversation Link Party #81 – On Blended Families…

  1. Mary Hill February 18, 2016 at 2:24 pm #

    Hi, I added your great linkup to my Link-up Page. 🙂 http://maryanderingcreatively.com/about/link-up-parties/ Thanks for being such great hosts. Also congrats on your guest post. Heading over to read now.
    Mary Hill recently posted…Remembrances of DancingMy Profile

  2. Marilyn Lesniak February 17, 2016 at 10:33 am #

    Thank you for hosting! Please visit Wonderful Wednesday, my new party! Have a great week.
    Marilyn Lesniak recently posted…Wonderful Wednesday #162My Profile

    • Pat February 17, 2016 at 12:52 pm #

      Just heading over there now…and added your party to our link directory 😉
      Looking forward to seeing you over there…and here again, too!
      Have a terrific week!

  3. Beth February 17, 2016 at 10:26 am #

    I look forward to checking your guest post out at Jed and Jen’s, Pat. Thanks so much for the linkup my friend!
    Beth recently posted…Comment on The Childhood Wound of Neglect And WW Linkup by Jed JurchenkoMy Profile

    • Pat February 17, 2016 at 3:02 pm #

      Beth…LOVED your post today! Tough series, but so very important… Hope you like my post over there; that, too, was a bit tough to process. Yet God is so kind and faithful, and can redeem everything <3!
      As always, love and appreciate you stopping by, friend!!

  4. Sarah Koontz February 17, 2016 at 10:17 am #

    I’m also part of a blended family, so I shared my Huffington Post interview about it in the linkup above. It is so important that we share our stories to encourage and edify others with the same types of struggles. Blessings to you!
    Sarah Koontz recently posted…What is Your Signature Sin? + Book GiveawayMy Profile

    • Pat February 17, 2016 at 10:34 pm #

      I LOVED your story (#52, for the curious ones)…thank you so much for sharing it here! I’m so happy for you all that things worked out as they did – which I imagine WAS work for your folks!
      The pictures were a sweet addition, too. I enjoyed “seeing” y’all grow up and add new family members on 🙂
      Please do come by and share again!!!
      Pat recently posted…How do Standardized Tests Fit in With your Homeschool?My Profile

  5. Jed February 17, 2016 at 9:36 am #

    Hey Pat,

    Thank you for hosting another incredible link-up. And thank you for guest posting on our site, and sharing your own blended family insights too. Jenny and I are honored. The two of us still have a lot to learn. We value the wisdom that you add to our ongoing family conversations. Wishing you a blessed week!
    Jed recently posted…How to Preserve The Gift Of Being a Blended FamilyMy Profile

    • Pat February 17, 2016 at 3:04 pm #

      I truly appreciate the opportunity you provided to share my story on your blog – praying that it blesses your readers, too!
      Thanks for sharing here today…have a great week!!

  6. Patricia Krank February 17, 2016 at 7:51 am #

    Thank you beautiful ladies.
    Patricia Krank recently posted…French Country Drop Cloth TableclothMy Profile

  7. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser February 17, 2016 at 12:42 am #

    Pat, in honour of the blended family, I’ve linked a story of Viet Nam, rather than the usual ‘terminally ill spouse’ thing.

    The story is really apropos, because there’s no blended family like a group of enlisted Marines having an argument about something completely irrelevant.

    I hope you’ll give it a visit, and that you’ll enjoy it as much as I enjoyed writing it. God, how I loved…and love…these guys!
    Andrew Budek-Schmeisser recently posted…What’s In A Name – A Story of Viet Nam {#BlogBattle}My Profile

    • Pat February 17, 2016 at 6:42 am #

      Oh Andrew, I DID read – and enjoyed – your post! That’s one of those stories that reminds us of the “reality” of war. I mean, even when the bullets aren’t flying, it’s easy (for me, at least) to forget that there are human beings on the ground, living and working together and trying to work out a terribly stressful existence…
      It’d be funny…’cept it’s not…
      Thanks so much for stopping by again – loved seeing Sylvia, too 😉
      Pat recently posted…Are you tired of coming up with something for dinner?My Profile

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