Good morning and welcome to Coffee and Conversation #80 – hosted by PatAndCandy.com!
With Valentine’s Day peeking around the corner, many of us are thinking about what to do, or to eat, or to gift, or how to surrpise our loved ones. Whether it’s your spouse, or your “significant other”, or your progeny, or parent…love is in the air!
But for us married folk (heck, for any of us with important people in our lives), we should be about showing love throughout the year. Even moreso as Christians, we have a mandate to love others as He has loved us. So often, however, we fall short.
Yeah, that’s where I’ve been lately. Too quick to focus on the negatives…too quick to run those tapes in my head – over and over – about my husband’s shortcomings, and the frustrations I have. Too quick to just change the subject rather than dig in and deal with the inevitable issues that come up when 2 people, and sinners at that, commit to staying together “till death do us part.”
And so frankly, I was a little irritated that there were quite a few posts this week that had to do with stregthening and deepening your marriage. I mean, dontcha just hate when God wants to pull you out of your “I’m fine in my little bubble of dysfunction, thank you!” zone and move you forward?!
Candy wrote about this “syndrome” awhile ago…something about if you wanted a happily ever after existence, go watch a Disney show (you can read that one here). And I also wrote a while back about what it’s like to (have to) say “I do” over and over again (as in, having to deal with issues and recommit to your spouse on a daily basis). You can read that one here! So, I guess there’s good news and bad news…
This kinda stuff, these kinda feelings come ’round now and again. Similar to peeling an onion, they resurface time to time, serving to show us yet another layer of sin and selfishness that may have risen to the surface again…that we have to deal with once more, albeit in a different form or fashion.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is that we have a Savior that loves us more than a bag of candy hearts and one of those humongous cards that has to be hand-delivered ’cause it’s too big for the Post Office to send! He loves us more than the giant Whitman’s Sampler box and the very softest teddy bear you can find. And HIS mercies are new each morning…HE makes all things new again…and HE replace a heart of stone with a heart of flesh.
Because of Him, we love…and, when we’re rooted in Him, each day we can find new ways to love and serve and grow closer to God and each other. Our marriages matter – even though that was never the message of St. Valentine! And it’s oh-so-much more important than what is written in many of the sappy Valentine’s Day cards I’ve been looking through of late…
…so no more sappy Valentine’s Day stuff! Today I’m featuring some of those serious “strengthen your marriage all year round” ideas that I told you about above.
Shannon, from OfTheHeart, wrote “15 Ways to Demonstrate Love to Your Husband”… These are neither reasons nor ways to avoid saying the words, which, of course, everyone “loves” to hear daily (see what I did there?), but they do speak to showing love in practical ways each and every day <3
I really needed this reminder from Danielle, at SnippetsofInspiration. While many of us might wince at something our kids do or say because we worry about how it reflects on us, how often do we stop to think about how our own behavior reflects on our husband? There’s quite a bit to chew on here…
Try this idea on your next date night! It will transform a ho-hum evening into a serious marriage-building exercise! Thank you, Kathy!!
Holding on to a grudge is never healthy, but it’s even all the more damaging when it comes to your marriage! Amanda, at Sicily’sHeart&Home, encourages us to “Let it Go!”
Thank you so much for your inspiration and timely words, ladies…
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