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Coffee & Conversation #78 – And Why I Write

Good morning and welcome to Coffee and Conversation #78 – hosted by PatAndCandy.com!

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I recently took the advice of Theresa Cennicola’s article “Top Resources for WAHM” and checked out Rand Fishkin’s (CEO of Moz) video: “How to Provide Unique Value in Your Content.” Excellent material, but one statement he made especially stuck in my head.

“There’s no prize for hitting publish.” (“Hitting publish” launches a post or article to cyberspace…the world-wide-web.)

He made the comment, of course, in reference to writing-for/as-income, meaning, just because you blog/write doesn’t mean you’ll earn money with it. People see and know when you’re publishing junk (most of the time), so you need to be creating quality content. I agree, of course, about the quality content concept, but the “prize = money” idea just wasn’t sitting well with me for some reason.  And the phrase has just been rolling around in my head like the tune of an insipid pop tune you just can’t stand!

I write, of course. I love to write. OK, it might even be said I’m addicted to writing! After 28 years of raising kids and 20 of homeschooling, I started to write as an outlet to share the activities we did and the lessons I’ve learned over time.

But it hasn’t stopped there…

I think of things to write about wherever I go, wherever I am, whatever I’m doing. I love the whole writing/blogging process: coming up with topics, the research, the outlining, the putting words together, the editing, the sharing, the reading comments from those who have been touched by the posts I’ve created; the words I’ve cobbled together.

Every time I hit publish, I win a prize.

I experience the same elation I felt when I crossed the finish line for my first 5k. The same sense of completion I felt when I birthed each of my 5 children. The same pride I felt when I won spelling bees as a young student. The same sense of accomplishment I felt when I made the Dean’s List or graduated from college.

Priceless feelings…a prize awarded from the investment of soul and sweat.

“No prize for hitting publish?”

Guess it depends on your definition of “prize.”


Now, on to this week’s features:

It was really, REALLY hard to narrow down my favs this week!  I had the opportunity of visiting almost every post, and by the end of yesterday, the kids were giving me a hard time with all the tabs I had open :-/  (smart-alecks!)

The best I could do was narrow it down to 5:

Coffee & Conversation 78


If You Give a Mom the Flu – Amanda at The Fundamental Home did a really sweet take on the sweet and funny children’s book!

Real Life Freezer Cooking for Moms – Apparently, Kyle at Aspired Living and I have had the same frustrating experiences trying out freezer cooking in the past! However, she found a solution 😉

You know we write quite a bit about gratitude on PatAndCandy! So Kathryn at Heaven is Smiling Above caught my eye and heart with 7 Unusual Ways I Know How to Be Grateful

Beth just started Loving Learning Freely, and I first met up her doing her free Martin Luther King Online Unit Study this past month. Please stop by and show her new blog some love! (And please let her know you found her here when you read What Homeschoolers Don’t Know (and What They Need!) )

And last but certainly not least, Erin at Stay at Home Yogi shared 10 Things I Want to Teach My Sons. I couldn’t have said it better myself 😉


Thank you so much for your inspiration and timely words, ladies!

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Pat is a Yankee city-girl who has been adopted by the sleepy, sunny south. Married for 30 years and the mother of 5, she woke up one day recently to discover she reached the stage of life where she is the “older woman” described in Titus 2:3-5. A coffee lover, the purchase of a coffee shop a few years ago was her personal foray into the small, family-owned business arena.Today, PatAndCandy.com is her outlet for packaging up and sharing the nuggets of wisdom God and life experiences have taught her.
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26 Responses to Coffee & Conversation #78 – And Why I Write

  1. Kathryn January 28, 2016 at 10:29 am #

    Thank you so much for featuring my gratitude post. I’m a bit behind and just saw your uplifting comment a few minutes ago. You made my day!

    • Pat January 28, 2016 at 12:06 pm #

      You’re so very welcome, Kathryn! I totally understand… Glad it made your day 🙂 That was a terrific post…

  2. Leslie January 27, 2016 at 9:52 pm #

    Yes! I wholeheartedly agree there’s something intrinsically fulfilling about hitting the publish button on a post you are proud of. Thanks for the encouragement. I’m not 100% sure I can say I feel just as complete after producing writing I love as after birthing a baby, LOL, but I get your heart behind the sentiment. I’m also in less pain 🙂

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 10:12 pm #

      Oh Leslie…you’re so funny!!! I dunno, tho, some of these posts… 😉

  3. Erin January 27, 2016 at 6:31 pm #

    So touched to be included as a feature! 🙂 Really made my day! <3

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:53 pm #

      Glad to hear it!! I really loved your post!! Come back and share some more with us 🙂

  4. Patricia Krank January 27, 2016 at 2:08 pm #

    Hitting publish is a win for me too. I get so much out this opportunity to do the thing I’ve always wanted to do but was too overwhelmed to do as a young mother, or later with my demanding career. I sometimes feel guilty sending my hubby off to work in the morning knowing that I will have time to craft and create and do all the things I love to do. SO, in the end, the pennies per day I make off this blogging gig is not the reward at all.
    Blessings to you ladies,

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:52 pm #

      Oh Patti, I GET you! I think it’s so funny, maybe ironic?, that no matter what stage of life we’re in, we humans often suffer from “the grass is greener” syndrome… Glad you’re enjoying this one – chuck the guilt, friend, it’s a waste of time.

      Write another post instead ;-)!

      Feel free to stop by again and bless us…and our readers!!

  5. Beth January 27, 2016 at 9:40 am #

    I agree, Pat, there is a prize in writing whether we gain a single dime from the process. Thanks for the heads up on Theresa Cennicola and Rand Fishkin–articles and videos, I’ll have to check them out. Thanks also for highlighting some bloggers who have gems out there as well. Appreciate the linkup, my friend!

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 8:00 pm #

      Beth, I think you’ll really enjoy Theresa’s blog and her resources. I first heard about the concept of the “Word of the Year” there, but the International Christian Mompreneur Network is a great site…
      So happy to see you here again…as always!
      Have a wonderful week <3!

  6. Jennifer January 27, 2016 at 9:31 am #

    Happy Wednesday, thanks for hosting!

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:47 pm #

      You’re welcome! Wednesdays always feel more fun with a party, dontcha think?

  7. Amanda January 27, 2016 at 9:13 am #

    Great Party Pat… I hope you are having a wonderful week !!

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:46 pm #

      Thanks for stopping by, Amanda! See you on Friday at Learning From Each Other 😉
      Have a terrific week…

  8. Marilyn Lesniak January 27, 2016 at 8:29 am #

    Thank you for the wonderful opportunity to share my posts and those of your awesome readers! I hope to see you at #Overthemoon and #Thursdayfavoritethings! Have a great week.

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:44 pm #

      You’re so very welcome, Marilyn! I’ll be over “your place” this week, too 😉 Have a terrific week!!

  9. Amanda B. January 27, 2016 at 8:14 am #

    Thank you for featuring my post! If you had any idea how sick I was when I wrote it, you would not believe I was capable of typing, much less sharing my wry sense of humor 😉 I am so glad you enjoyed my little bit of fun!

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 8:27 am #

      Oh my…guess you were writing out of personal experience, then! So sorry!!! Hope you’re feeling much better now 🙂

  10. Jed January 27, 2016 at 7:44 am #

    I’m with you, I find a prize in the joy of writing. The friendships and connections are a prize as well, and these are almost guaranteed as long as the post is friendly, and thought provoking. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on writing. They helped me to clarify my own thoughts about why I write too. Wishing you an incredible week!

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 8:01 am #

      Thanks, Jed. Yes, thought-provoking… I’ve read some blogging teachers suggest that at times we shoot for the controversial (topics) or the shocking (titles). I don’t know…it may get first-time readers, but I don’t know about building faithful fans and friends, which I too, treasure! Guess it depends on your niche. I think it really pivots on what Ifeoma said about our perspective and intentions…

      Appreciate your thoughts, Jed! And have I told you how much I love y’all’s site?! You have such a sweet family 🙂
      Off to pour another cuppa’…

  11. Ifeoma Samuel January 27, 2016 at 4:00 am #

    I enjoyed reading your article on writing. Passion is not enough but perspective and original intentions would help guide our thoughts when blogging.
    Yes, the definition of accomplishment varies but it is good we set our expectations in the right place.
    I read Deb Wolf’s blog yesterday she wrote about prize and awards too. I think you should check it out. It is an interesting read. She shares similar thoughts like you have here.
    Thanks for blessing my heart today.

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:02 am #

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts… I agree that “passion is not enough”. It kinda bugs me when people exhort us to “do what you love” in business: first of all, our passions can be so very fleeting and ever-changing, and secondly, because if there is no interest-at-large in what you’re passionate about…well, I think anyone can follow that thread – LOL! Perspective and originality really ARE key, especially among the clamor of voices in the internet these days!

      I’m posting the link to Deb’s article here for others to read – yes, it IS good! http://countingmyblessings.com/no-recognition/
      I so appreciate your perspective and thoughts today – have a wonderful week, friend!

  12. Beth January 27, 2016 at 2:33 am #

    Thanks for the shout-out, Pat! I feel blessed by all the support from new bloggin’ momma friends. I guess that support is one of the “prizes” I’m receiving.

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:07 am #

      My pleasure! Haha, you may be right for now…but I can see a definite benefit to your site. I’m confident you’ll see other “prizes” soon enough 😉
      Thanks for stopping by – hope you become a regular!
      Have a great week…

  13. Lisa January 27, 2016 at 1:18 am #

    Thanks so much for hosting! Hope the rest of your week is amazing! xoxo

    • Pat January 27, 2016 at 7:08 am #

      You’re welcome, Lisa! Thanks for stopping by and sharing 🙂

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