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Coffee and Conversation #120 – Pass the Margin

Good morning and welcome to Coffee and Conversation #120…

Pat is taking some time off this month to work on a few projects for the New Year (yup, it’s getting to be ‘that’ time already!). Lucky for us, however, we have some terrific friends who will be standing in the gap…

To that end, this month we’ll be featuring some wonderful guest bloggers each week on Coffee and Conversation!

Coffee and Conversation #120 - Guest post from Tori Cole at Mess to Blessed


Today we welcome Tori Cole from Mess to Blessed. Hoping you’re experiencing God’s sweet blessings, and a healthy margin, as we approach Thanksgiving…

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Yes, with the holidays fast approaching it seems like it’s a sink or swim season.

A time full of joy, laughter, family, cozy homes, a love of the Savior and thankfulness for blessings.

But, how many times have we missed it?

  • Missed it because of the lack of perfection?
  • Missed it because you couldn’t afford the gift your kid really wanted…
  • Missed it because the dressing got left out…
  • Missed it because you were too busy to get to every function known to man?


It’s so easy to do. It’s so easy to lose sight of the “Reason for the season” when we don’t take the time to enjoy it, even in its glorious imperfection.

Tori Cole - This season I'm being intentional to margin.


See this picture on your left? I actually did this a couple weeks ago. And do you know how refreshed I felt afterward? I mean, the only thing better in this picture would be if it were at the beach. 🙂


This season I’m being intentional in Margin.


I’m making the time to celebrate the joy, the hope, the laughter. Notice I said “making”. A wise woman told me last year: Now is the time to set traditions that you enjoy, (it) makes life memorable and meaningful.

  • I don’t want to waste this precious time to do things that are frivolous.
  • I’m going to purposefully let something go.
  • I’m going to make a mess, make something not match on the Christmas tree.
  • Hey, I may be as bold as to let my kids decorate the tree however they want it. (Yes, I can feel my blood pressure rising as I type this.)


But I’m going to let go of expectations, and perfection and just take it in. Because when I am full, when I am at peace with God, others, and myself, I can give my best to others. And I think that is better than any present underneath the tree.
I’m a Mom of 4 over at Mess to Blessed. My life is never calm, always filled with craziness, and it is pretty fun (minus the temper tantrums that little people sometimes throw). I’m making it my goal to enjoy this season with meaningful intentionality.

Tori Cole


What can you do this season to enjoy it? To let something go and embrace what this is actually for? It won’t be easy, hey, we may even make someone mad when we say the “No” word. But, make “margin” so that you can enjoy this season, too.

So please – Pass the Margin! 

And congratulations to the winner of last week’s giveaway: Maya R.

Maya, I sent you an email, so if you haven’t responded yet…get in touch ASAP! 🙂


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Pat is a Yankee city-girl who has been adopted by the sleepy, sunny south. Married for 30 years and the mother of 5, she woke up one day recently to discover she reached the stage of life where she is the “older woman” described in Titus 2:3-5. A coffee lover, the purchase of a coffee shop a few years ago was her personal foray into the small, family-owned business arena.Today, PatAndCandy.com is her outlet for packaging up and sharing the nuggets of wisdom God and life experiences have taught her.
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5 Responses to Coffee and Conversation #120 – Pass the Margin

  1. Sue Donaldson November 17, 2016 at 8:46 pm #

    Hi, tori! I let go of stress last night in the tub! Using patandcandy’s detoxing suggestion. bliss. and i saved 45.00 by not going to get a massage! thanks to all of you! happy holidays!
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  2. Journa Ramirez November 17, 2016 at 9:35 am #

    We really love to join your party! Thanks for hosting every week! -Journa, from the team at http://www.lollyjane.com

  3. Marilyn November 16, 2016 at 9:43 pm #

    Thanks for hosting. Have a happy holiday!
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  4. Tianna November 16, 2016 at 11:07 am #

    thanks for another lovely link up!

  5. Tori November 16, 2016 at 9:11 am #

    I’ve got a giveaway going on in my blog, too, ladies! I’d love for you to check it out! http://www.messtoblessed.com Thanks Pat and Candy for all of this: your blog, link party. I appreciate it!
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