Note: We are so happy to have Mandy Kelly, of Worshipful Living, join us today with a guest post. Her words are especially relevant as we find ourselves in the middle of our series 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband. Read on and be encouraged to join us in affirming and praying for our husbands!
Words of affirmation have not always been my thing. I know, that sounds crazy, coming from a blogger – who is constantly writing out words to affirm and encourage. Yet, in my daily life, affirming others, especially my husband, isn’t always easy.
It isn’t because he doesn’t deserve those words – because he does. My husband is an amazing, gentle, kind-hearted man who takes care of me and our children. Yet, the reason why I don’t always affirm him like I should comes from within.
I knew I was lacking in this area when my husband told me he loved me three times in one short, two hour period. The first time he said it, I just responded with a casual “I love you too” and went on about my business.
The second time he said it, I thought it was abnormal, but just responded.
When he said it again an hour or so later- I stopped in my tracks.
“Darlin’, you know I love you. Why do you keep asking me?”
“Because I wasn’t sure if you meant the words – they felt absent minded.”
WOW. My heart hit the floor. I didn’t mean the words absent-mindedly – but that is how they felt. My sin nature flared up – of course the last time was absent minded. We said it 2 other times in 2 hours!
But, God gently pricked my heart.
My husband needed the affirmation from me – he needs to know I love him.
- I am a quality time girl. Acts of service is my second love language. So, if he is sitting beside me watching a movie, or takes out the trash – I feel loved!
- He is a physical touch and words of affirmation kind of guy. He needs intimacy – and he needs affirmation. I struggle sometimes with both.
Our husbands have been created to be the warriors of our home. Yet, when we don’t love them the way they feel loved – if we only try to push our love language on them – they won’t feel loved. Our men need to hear that we love them. That we appreciate them and notice them. My man – for all the strength and respect he carries – needs to hear those things from me.
My words speak power into my marriage.
They speak life into my spouse. Yet, what are the words our husbands hear from us the most?
Are we nagging on them – or building them up? As wives, we are often quick to tell them about what needs to be done, what we don’t like or how to do something better. Those words sound like dripping water – especially if they are all they ever hear.
We need to guard our husband with words of affirmation. We need to let him know we love him. That we care about and respect him. Most importantly, we need to let him know we appreciate him.
Speak words of life into your husband today.
Worshiping With My Life,