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8 Practical Ways You Can Bless Your Teen

Ever heard that old 1-liner  “Everybody complains about the weather…but nobody does anything about it!”?  Well, it’s often the same with the teenage years…but what would you say if I told you that YOU can be different; that you CAN do something about it?

Ways to encourage a teenagerWe often look at the teenage years as a messy mess that our kids have to go through and that parents have to endure, but honestly, that doesn’t have to be so!  While Pat and I surely went through some tough situations with our teens – and you may be in those same shoes right now, too – now that we’re on “the other side” of them, we’ve realized there were some things we could have done differently.  And because our kids’ ages incorporate such a wide time span, we’re been blessed to be able to actually “field test” some of those ideas!

It’s important for us as parents to realize that the teen years are challenging to navigate.  Embrace it and accept it. But understand too that your teens are feeling the same way!  They are trying to navigate new responsibilities and new roles, and in addition to their own fluctuating hormones and emotions, our society doesn’t exactly help them with the transition, either.

How and when DO they become adults?  Not an easy question to answer… (although we’ll be sharing some thoughts on that same topic soon!!)

In the meantime, much as you’d like to help your hubby or a friend when they’re going through a tough time, there are some things you can do for your kiddos to help make life a little sweeter during this transition.  Keep in mind that this is not an exhaustive list, but we hope it will be enough to get you started thinking creatively!

8 Practical Ways to Bless Your Teen

Cook their favorite meal – just for them and just because

Write them a letter – Leave it where they’re sure to find it. Tell them what you love about them and the ways you see them growing and maturing. I realize that some seasons may require some digging to find something positive to say. I get that! But, I guarantee you that you can find something. When you do, focus on that!

Let them hear you talk highly of them to others – You don’t have to make it obvious, but make sure they hear you…

Make them breakfast in bed – How fun is that? It also makes getting up a little bit easier.

Praise them – When you see them doing good make sure they know you notice! If you’re struggling with a rebellious teen, this may seem overwhelming, but if you look for the good, you’ll find it. Praising them for a good attitude or a job well done will go a long way to counter the correction that may seem to be the rule of thumb right now. Trust me, they’ll appreciate it (even if they don’t show it!)

Handle some (or at least one!) of their chores on occasion – Saying something along the lines of, “You don’t have to worry about unloading the dishwasher tonight. I noticed you were pretty busy with your homework so I handled it for you” will bless their socks off!

Show them respect – Let them know that you recognize them as young adults. This can be done through your tone of voice and in the way you interact with them.

Surprise them with their favorite candy bar – They may be teens, but they’ll still appreciate getting a treat when you come home from the store.

See?  Nothing rocket-science-y here!  Bear in mind that love-languages can play a major role in blessing anyone in your life, so study your kids well and through trial and error I’ll bet you can come up with a list of your own, perfectly tailored to your own teen!

And also remember the quality vs. quantity time issue… Love languages and their attitudes aside, your growing young adult really does need your time: your engagement with him or her and your input will help serve as a compass as they move forward handling important issues in their lives.

So, what do you think?

Anything in this list that would appeal to your teen? Do you have any to add that we can all try in our home?  Please feel free to use the comments to bless us all 🙂

Ways to encourage a teenager

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Candy is a southern girl who enjoys the simple things in life. Dirt road drivin’, Sunday afternoon nappin’, back yard swingin’, and sunset watchin’ are a few of the things that make her smile. She’s been married to her best friend and the love of her life for almost 25 years and is navigating motherhood with her 4 children, aged 23, 19, 14, & 11. Homeschooling for over 18 years now, she is also a bit of a word-nerd (ok, maybe more than a “bit” – she actually considers making lists of homophones to be entertaining), a lover of books and chocolate, a survivor of cancer, an author, and a hula hoop maker.

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11 Responses to 8 Practical Ways You Can Bless Your Teen

  1. Beth January 23, 2016 at 1:44 pm #

    I make a point to greet my teens when they emerge from hours spend in their room. I ask how things are going and what they’ve been up to show I am truly interested in what they are doing. I feel it keeps us connected,

    • Pat January 23, 2016 at 1:48 pm #

      I think that not only shows them you’re interested, but adds a reminder about the importance of accountability…
      Thanks for stopping by and sharing 🙂

  2. Victoria September 24, 2015 at 8:17 am #

    I don’t have teens yet but I can see how these would bless them, especially letting them hear you speak highly of others. I know from my littles, sometimes it’s so easy to “vent” to other parents about what we are going through but I was reminded of how much they actually hear. Just like my husband, I want to use my words to share their praises and how much of a blessing they are to me. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Alison September 22, 2015 at 9:31 pm #

    These are great ideas, so simple and sweet!! Thank you for linking your post to the Thoughtful Spot Blog Hop! 🙂

  4. Heaven September 22, 2015 at 1:12 pm #

    This is helpful. I’m just starting to wade in these deep teen waters. This is pinned!

  5. Linda S September 21, 2015 at 9:21 pm #

    great tips! I love having teens in the house, and taking that extra step to let them know they are important to you goes a long long way in building strong bonds that will last a lifetime. Thanks so much for sharing – stopping by from TheModestMom this week.

    • Candy September 22, 2015 at 7:02 am #

      Thanks for stopping by, Linda! I always love hearing from parents who are enjoying their kids’ teen years. 🙂

  6. JES September 16, 2015 at 8:29 am #

    Thank you Candy. This helps! 🙂

    • Candy September 16, 2015 at 9:18 am #

      You’re so welcome, JES! 🙂

  7. Pat Jones September 8, 2015 at 12:28 pm #

    Great post! For people who aren’t familiar with Gary Chapman’s “love languages” books, I highly recommend them. I only learned of them as a senior citizen, and realized immediately how much they would have enriched relationships over my whole life. It’s a concept so easy to grasp and to immediately put in use.

    On this subject, one of the books is “The Five Love Languages for Teens.”

    • Candy September 8, 2015 at 5:08 pm #

      Thanks, Mrs. Pat! You’re right, that is an excellent book. We’ll update the post soon to include a link directly to it. 🙂

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