Welcome back to our series “30 Days of Praying for Your Husband” – whew, Day 2 and I’m already being challenged!
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Today we’re laying a foundation to pray for our spouses. I’m sure you’ll agree that starting anything – a diet, a habit, building a home – requires a solid foundation.
And ladies, while a solid foundation is always built on the Lord, the foundation for our prayers lies within our hearts. Although you don’t need the book in order to join us, the chapter on “His Wife” in The Power of a Praying Wife deals exactly with that issue, and is alone worth the price. I know when I first read it, it completely caught me off guard. It was during a time that my husband and I were going through a rough patch, and I was all about blame and unforgiveness. Looking back through it recently, I especially took note of some of the lines I had highlighted…
“Sometimes wives sabotage their own prayers because they don’t pray them from a right heart.” p. 25
“My heart had to be softened, humbled, pummeled, molded, and reconstructed before He even started working on my husband. I had to learn to see things according to the way God saw them – not how I thought they should be.” p. 26
Stormie Omartian talks about how the concepts of love and respect, forgiveness, self-care, dealing with expectations and disappointment, creating a welcoming home, and working within our God-given roles all work together to create an atmosphere from which we can pray for our husbands in a way that is pleasing to God.
So we need to begin by searching our own hearts.
- Are your motives and heart pure? To the best of our ability, we need to ensure that our prayers are not attempts to manipulate our men or “get our way.” Ask God to show you “why” you’re praying for your husband every day. As time goes on, you’ll be able to recognize more quickly any less-than-pure motives behind your prayers, but start the day by asking God to search your heart (Psalm 139:23). Proverbs tells us that He hears the prayers of the righteous (Prov 15:8,29); we need to make sure we’ve removed the plank from our own eye before we approach the throne regarding our husbands (Matt 7:4-5).
- Are you holding on to bitterness or unforgiveness over any issue in your marriage? Here’s where journaling may be helpful. Sometimes writing these thoughts out privately has a way of deflating the importance we have given them in our own mind. Often, once it’s down on paper, we are more willing and able to let it go.
- Are you doing what’s required of you in your marriage? I often remind our kids that when they’re having a conflict with someone, the only person they are responsible for is themselves – it doesn’t matter what the other person said or did, they can control their own reaction. Well, today this little tidbit of advice came back to haunt me concerning how we handle our household budget (stick around, as we pray for finances in a later segment…). While complaining to God about a particular issue, He reminded me that I wasn’t exactly doing what I was ‘sposed to be doing either :-/ Ouch!
- Regarding the issues of respect and authority in your marriage, do you respect your husband and allow him to work from his God-given role of the leader of your home? Believer or not, this applies equally to all husbands, by the way. This are is often a touchy subject for women, for far too many reasons to go into here. In prayer, ask God to show you what, if anything, applies to your attitudes and actions toward your husband regarding respect and allowing him to function as the leader in your home. Write down one or two things that you know of right now that you can change in words and/or actions to help him feel respected.
- Do we use words to nag our husbands? As in any relationship, there is a time to speak and a time not to speak. It is only through prayer that we can ever begin to discern which is appropriate to the situation. The safeguard with prayer is that you have to go through God. He can filter out our bad attitudes, impure motives or incorrect assumptions…and handle it. Ask God to show you a situation or two that you are struggling with where you may need to keep still with your husband and have a convo with the Lord. Take notes so you can go back later and be reminded of how perfectly God instructed you in those areas. It’s a real faith-builder!
Well, I don’t know about you, but those questions are more than enough to get me down on my knees before the Father! Thank you for joining me today…my prayer is that as you continue to pray for your husband, God will even mold you more and more into a wife that is pleasing and honoring to Him!
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
In this 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband series, we will be covering the following areas: His wife, Work, Finances, Sexuality, Affections, Temptations and Trials, His Mind, Fears, Purpose, Choices, Health, Protection, Integrity, Reputation, Priorities, Relationships, Fatherhood, His Past, Attitude, Marriage, Emotions, Walk, Talk, Repentance, Deliverance, Obedience, Self-Image, Faith, Future
Interested in the going through the whole series? Find the whole study here.
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